At 40 years old I thought it was going to be a long, difficult journey getting pregnant – you know, with all the daunting statistics about women getting pregnant and delivering a baby full term without complications. Well I am here to tell you that it is possible to get pregnant naturally and to have a baby after 40. I, personally, became pregnant a few months before my 41st birthday.
However, it is important to note though that since I was a teenager, my menstrual cycle has been pretty regular and consistent on a monthly basis until the month that I became pregnant.
Before Getting Pregnant At 40
A year before I became pregnant, my husband, Leslie and I were not married, even though we first met in 2003, dating intermittently from then until 2016. We dated consistently, yet casually from the summer of 2016 until the beginning of 2017. In March of 2017 we officially “consummated” our relationship, despite having known each other and dating on and off for 15 years.
We were “official” from that month until we married in January 2018. I was 40 and Leslie was 47 at the time but he did not have any children of his own, even though he always wanted one or some with the “right” person. From March until October, we did not use birth control during every session.
Not “Trying” to Get Pregnant
We agreed that because of my age that we might have some difficultly conceiving, so we decided not to fully prevent pregnancy – it was possible for us to get pregnant, but we weren’t in a rush to do so either.
The fact that we weren’t in a rush to get pregnant was actually very key.
After 6 Months of “Not Trying” to Get Pregnant
However, after 6 months of having regular periods I began to think that either: 1) My eggs were all dried up and that I was now barren; or 2) Leslie was sterile, because after all I already had a child and he was 47 with no children. Either way, I thought that I wasn’t going to be able to have at least one child for my “future husband” – at least not naturally and without a considerable amount of time and effort.
At the end of September 2017, I had a spiritual cleanse and release. I now realize that up until that time I was still carrying around a tremendous amount of emotional baggage from a previous long term, 10 year relationship and as a result my body was not creating a healthy environment in which a child could be conceived.
From Peace to Pregnancy
After having that spiritual moment I IMMEDIATELY experienced the greatest sense of calm that one could have – I was emotionally and spiritually at peace. That peace allowed my body to foster conception. One month later, our first pregnancy was confirmed.
Barriers to Pregnancy
Stress, hurt, emotional baggage, anxiety, impatience, pressure – whatever the issue – all of these will prevent pregnancy. While my issue was a previous relationship, yours is likely another subconscious struggle in which you may or not be aware.
When you rid your MIND from these “ailments” you create a healthy body in which you can conceive.
How many times have you heard that couples would try to have a baby for years by using hormones, injections, fertility treatments, etc. without success? After finally having a baby or adopting though that same couple ends up conceiving a baby without expectation or assistance.
Why? Because the mother was no longer dealing with a mental or spiritual barrier. Woman attain their peace is different ways – mine was a Godly experience freeing me spiritually, however, other women experience their peace in other ways. You have to find your ultimate peace your way.
Attaining Peace is Easier Said Than Done
I know that reaching this level of peace is easier said than done, but its true. There are so many women near or over 40 years old who have never been married or had children and are trying to beat their biological clock. I was there, especially around 38 years old.
Still Dating at 40
Although I always wanted more children, by the age of 38 it became a crushing reality to me that that probably wouldn’t happen. Quite frankly, I was willing to settle and stay in an unhealthy relationship thinking that I was not going to meet someone, fall in love, get married and then having a child by 40. I also knew that the chances of having a baby after 40 was going to be challenging.
The majority of the men that I met and/or dated already had children and at their age didn’t really care to have another child. I accepted that I was not going to have another child at this age, so I started making plans for my life outside of my current profession and relationship and marriage. So, when I turned 40, I was very casual about having another child so that was one issue that I no longer encountered.
Literally, the only person I would have considered having a child with at that point in my life was Leslie, which I didn’t realize until we started dating exclusively.
Trying to Beat the Clock
Because of our long history, I knew Leslie’s character and I knew without question that he would be a great father and husband. Short of having that, I was not willing to have a baby with someone that I just met just to beat the clock of turning 40 years old.
BUT, if you are over 40, you still desire to get pregnant, then know that it is still possible to conceive a baby naturally at this age!